I came up with a theory on life but my friend, Tim, invented one that’s even better. My version says life is an exercise in survival and we survive both physically and emotionally. Status is a big part of surviving emotionally. But my friend, Tim Maslow, says there are five stages — all in a hierarchy. The first two involve physical. Stage 1 is the need for food, shelter, and clothing; stage 2 adds physical safety. The next two address emotions. Stage 3 says we need a peer group; stage 4 says that, once attained, we need to stand out within that group.
Stage 3 is interesting because it explains the preoccupation we all have with “keeping up with the Joneses” and why some kids will stab a complete stranger in order to join a street gang. Nature dictates that everyone needs a peer group and we’ll use our most innate skills to obtain one. It’s part of being human.
Stage 4 says that once you get into a group, you somehow need to distinguish yourself within it. We have to stand out so people don’t forget about us. Mike the Italian guy, big Bill, Mary with the red car. Everyone needs to be identified in some unique way. A good example can be seen inside a men’s locker room. There’s always the rich guy, the smart guy, the funny guy, the one who’s best looking, the best athlete, etc.
